What defines a good year?
Is it the friends you made? the friends you retained? getting into a relationship? staying in a relationship? how much money you made? how much satisfaction you got out of your job? were you happier for most of the year than you were sad? did you achieve your fitness goals? the car or house you bought?
It can be one or all of the above, everyone has different priorities and none of them are wrong. To me, it’s a little bit of everything.
Did I make friends? I don’t think I’ve ever networked as much as I have this year. I have made a tonne of new friends through the blogosphere and I have loved every opportunity this community has given me so looking through that perspective… yes, I had the most fantastic year to date.
Did I make heaps of money? Yes and no – let’s say it’s neutral lol but I’ve never classified success as making money.
Did I achieve my fitness goals? Yes! But I’m not going to pretend like I didn’t work hard for it.
Did you stay in a relationship? I did let somebody in my life that really rocked my world… in a good way, and in a very negative way. I hate to admit that I was with the wrong person for so long because at the time I would have rather been in an average relationship than be alone. The sadness of that relationship being over was hard to deal with but the growth in myself I had after was unparalleled. And the only way that I got out of that depressing, muddy hole was to climb my way out instead of staying down in the dumps waiting for the next average relationship to come along.
So instead of filling my broken heart with another average relationship (which was probably what led me to that one in the first place) I chose to be pro-active with making myself a whole person again. I reminded myself that happiness is a choice, and I chose to be a confident, entrepreneurial, adventurous girl I was and will continue to be. This lesson reminded me how important it is to have goals and the importance in seeing every shitty situation that comes your way as an opportunity to grow, learn and be better for it.
I hope you’re honest about how your year went too and go into the next one a strong, confident person with realistic goals, free of people holding you back and surrounding yourself with people who will lift you up. Corny but kinda srz. I love you and I wish you the best.
Photography by Wes Tan