In a recent interview Elon Musk revealed that he was lonely. Granted, it was after his break up with his girlfriend, but nonetheless, even self-made billionaires get lonely even at the top. But Elon isn’t alone, in fact entrepreneurs report being “lonely” more than twice the average. But why is that? It’s because we’re different, and we know it. It’s what drives us to create, explore, and travel. It’s what gives us that drive because we try to fill the void of our pain.
We try to connect to our audience with success and achievements.
As much as we hark on about being secure, we’re all a little bit insecure. And that makes entrepreneurs (even Elon Musk) feel lonely. And it’s not just Elon, I feel alone too.
I always feel alone. I can be at parties every night of the week, meet new people every day, be with my boyfriend night after night, but still feel very alone.
But I’m not alone. I think entrepreneurs feel alone at every level of their career, start up or in a big global team, and we all feel alone together. We all try to cover up our loneliness with more work, and then become workaholics, addicted to the ‘need’ to be needed, even if it’s work we have created for ourselves.
It’s not about being socially inept, or unable to carry a conversation, or the inability to have friends, or not having people who relate to you, but the fact that we crave the “hit” of the success because we don’t know how to get our emotional needs met any other way. But at the same time, the hurt drives us to be productive and proactive.
Because of this we create, we produce, and we serve our audience.
So if you feel alone, it’s okay. I do, too. And so does Elon and he’s changed the course of the future and so can you.
And thank God for my loneliness, it has driven me to build an amazing audience of over 100k people who I can inspire and grow with.
Be grateful for your pain and your loneliness. It will force to you be a smarter worker, be more productive, take initiative, and be a voice for people who don’t have one.