Category: Life advice

Do you ever feel alone even in a crowded room?

In a recent interview Elon Musk revealed that he was lonely. Granted, it was after his break up with his girlfriend, but nonetheless, even self-made billionaires get lonely even at the top. But Elon isn’t alone, in fact entrepreneurs report being “lonely” more than twice the average. But why is that? It’s because we’re different, and we know it. It’s what drives us to create, explore, and travel. It’s what gives us that drive because we try to fill the void of our pain.

We try to connect to our audience with success and achievements.

As much as we hark on about being secure, we’re all a little bit insecure. And that makes entrepreneurs (even Elon Musk) feel lonely. And it’s not just Elon, I feel alone too.

I always feel alone. I can be at parties every night of the week, meet new people every day, be with my boyfriend night after night, but still feel very alone.

But I’m not alone. I think entrepreneurs feel alone at every level of their career, start up or in a big global team, and we all feel alone together. We all try to cover up our loneliness with more work, and then become workaholics, addicted to the ‘need’ to be needed, even if it’s work we have created for ourselves.

It’s not about being socially inept, or unable to carry a conversation, or the inability to have friends, or not having people who relate to you, but the fact that we crave the “hit” of the success because we don’t know how to get our emotional needs met any other way. But at the same time, the hurt drives us to be productive and proactive.

Because of this we create, we produce, and we serve our audience.

So if you feel alone, it’s okay. I do, too. And so does Elon and he’s changed the course of the future and so can you.

And thank God for my loneliness, it has driven me to build an amazing audience of over 100k people who I can inspire and grow with.

Be grateful for your pain and your loneliness. It will force to you be a smarter worker, be more productive, take initiative, and be a voice for people who don’t have one.

Jessie x


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After listening to Beyonce’s new album, Lemonade, for 40 hours straight this week & reading hundreds of articles of speculation I thought I’d share my thoughts on the topic of infidelity.

Now, I’m well aware that there are more topics raised in the album bigger than cheating but I’ll be focussing on the aforementioned.

Cheating comes in two forms: physically and emotionally: Physically is as little as a kiss with someone up to a whole night(s) together, however there’s no emotional ties with the act. Emotionally, and arguably the worse of the two is having an emotional connection with someone else while you’re in a committed relationship, which of course can lead to something physical whether you choose to or not.

Have I cheated? Physically, no. Emotionally, maybe, yes. But I didn’t let it drag on for long, not that that’s an excuse. I was in a two year committed relationship and probably the most amazing boyfriend I’ve had to date. I realised shortly after I had feelings for someone else so I couldn’t really be in love with this boy so I ended it. That was put particularly harshly but of course there’s more to it than that.

Have I been cheated on? I honestly don’t know. There’s a very high chance, but I haven’t had it confirmed and tbh I don’t need it to be as it’s all water under the bridge.

Is cheating forgivable? Every relationship is different and you can’t pigeonhole an answer to yes or no. I have a lot of people close to me in my life who have dealt with this issue. A lot of it was within marriage which puts a spanner in the works. Some have worked it out and some have broken up over it, not without fighting for the relationship though.

My boyfriend is cheating on me, what do I do? I would say leave him, throw his stuff out the door, cry with your girlfriends, watch Sex & the City and move on with your life.

But he says he loves me and it won’t happen again? Make him bloody work for it, work for YOU! You’re a fine ass fox if he really meant it he WILL work for it. Sometimes it takes a infidel act to make someone realise that the grass isn’t greener on the other side after all. Again, every relationship is different but if it happens more than once it’s a BAD sign. But even once has ruined all trust in the relationship so you really need to assess whether this relationship is worth stressing over every time he’s out with his ‘mates’ late at night.

Ok I dumped his ass, how do I deal? Stay busy, stay focussed on being a whole person again without someone by your side, have goals and don’t let one of those goals be to screw his best friend or make like the FBI and stalk him and ‘the other woman’ (because I know all of your girls know how!) Distance is your best friend and time is the only thing that can heal you. As Bey put it “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper” – Formation. Which I interpret to be your success.

I genuinely want all of my readers to be successful in their fields, their relationships and their life. Thanks for reading!

Jessie x

10 Signs he’s into you

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Whether you’re in a relationship or sussing out if he likes you these are the clear cut signs he cares about you and wants you. If he’s not doing these things you really need to reconsider if he’s really that into you…

1. He asks how your day is - he wants to know about your mundane, everyday things & even sends a ‘goodnight’ or ‘goodmorning’ text if you’re not physically together

2. He’ll double text – there’s no shame when it comes to getting your attention

3. He asks your opinion – he’ll ask “Do you like these sneakers?” before he buys them

4. He’ll hold you & kiss you in public – it doesn’t have to be an over-share of PDA but touching your hand over or under the table or holding you while you walk is pretty clear he wants the world to know he’s yours

5. He doesn’t take half a day to reply to you – you’re a priority in his life and you should expect to hear back from him in T minus 15 minutes

6. He notices little things – when you’ve changed your hair or if you’re wearing new jeans because your butt is looking extra fine

7. He compliments you – on your smile, your intellect, your choice in movies, your new shoes, guys like to let girls know they are looking, and why wouldn’t they, you’re hot!

8. He ignores his phone when you’re together – the only person he wants to hear from is with him

9. He makes an effort to see you – he’ll come over from the other side of town to hang out if he has to, not only when it’s convenient

10. He makes an effort to get to know your friends - instead of being jealous of your guy friends he’ll get to know them, and he’ll make sure he’s in with your best girlfriends because it’s important to be in their good books. He’s expecting to be with you long term so why not be friends with yours?

Jessie x

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