Infidelity

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After listening to Beyonce’s new album, Lemonade, for 40 hours straight this week & reading hundreds of articles of speculation I thought I’d share my thoughts on the topic of infidelity.

Now, I’m well aware that there are more topics raised in the album bigger than cheating but I’ll be focussing on the aforementioned.

Cheating comes in two forms: physically and emotionally: Physically is as little as a kiss with someone up to a whole night(s) together, however there’s no emotional ties with the act. Emotionally, and arguably the worse of the two is having an emotional connection with someone else while you’re in a committed relationship, which of course can lead to something physical whether you choose to or not.

Have I cheated? Physically, no. Emotionally, maybe, yes. But I didn’t let it drag on for long, not that that’s an excuse. I was in a two year committed relationship and probably the most amazing boyfriend I’ve had to date. I realised shortly after I had feelings for someone else so I couldn’t really be in love with this boy so I ended it. That was put particularly harshly but of course there’s more to it than that.

Have I been cheated on? I honestly don’t know. There’s a very high chance, but I haven’t had it confirmed and tbh I don’t need it to be as it’s all water under the bridge.

Is cheating forgivable? Every relationship is different and you can’t pigeonhole an answer to yes or no. I have a lot of people close to me in my life who have dealt with this issue. A lot of it was within marriage which puts a spanner in the works. Some have worked it out and some have broken up over it, not without fighting for the relationship though.

My boyfriend is cheating on me, what do I do? I would say leave him, throw his stuff out the door, cry with your girlfriends, watch Sex & the City and move on with your life.

But he says he loves me and it won’t happen again? Make him bloody work for it, work for YOU! You’re a fine ass fox if he really meant it he WILL work for it. Sometimes it takes a infidel act to make someone realise that the grass isn’t greener on the other side after all. Again, every relationship is different but if it happens more than once it’s a BAD sign. But even once has ruined all trust in the relationship so you really need to assess whether this relationship is worth stressing over every time he’s out with his ‘mates’ late at night.

Ok I dumped his ass, how do I deal? Stay busy, stay focussed on being a whole person again without someone by your side, have goals and don’t let one of those goals be to screw his best friend or make like the FBI and stalk him and ‘the other woman’ (because I know all of your girls know how!) Distance is your best friend and time is the only thing that can heal you. As Bey put it “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper” – Formation. Which I interpret to be your success.

I genuinely want all of my readers to be successful in their fields, their relationships and their life. Thanks for reading!

Jessie x

10 Signs he’s into you

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Whether you’re in a relationship or sussing out if he likes you these are the clear cut signs he cares about you and wants you. If he’s not doing these things you really need to reconsider if he’s really that into you…

1. He asks how your day is - he wants to know about your mundane, everyday things & even sends a ‘goodnight’ or ‘goodmorning’ text if you’re not physically together

2. He’ll double text – there’s no shame when it comes to getting your attention

3. He asks your opinion – he’ll ask “Do you like these sneakers?” before he buys them

4. He’ll hold you & kiss you in public – it doesn’t have to be an over-share of PDA but touching your hand over or under the table or holding you while you walk is pretty clear he wants the world to know he’s yours

5. He doesn’t take half a day to reply to you – you’re a priority in his life and you should expect to hear back from him in T minus 15 minutes

6. He notices little things – when you’ve changed your hair or if you’re wearing new jeans because your butt is looking extra fine

7. He compliments you – on your smile, your intellect, your choice in movies, your new shoes, guys like to let girls know they are looking, and why wouldn’t they, you’re hot!

8. He ignores his phone when you’re together – the only person he wants to hear from is with him

9. He makes an effort to see you – he’ll come over from the other side of town to hang out if he has to, not only when it’s convenient

10. He makes an effort to get to know your friends - instead of being jealous of your guy friends he’ll get to know them, and he’ll make sure he’s in with your best girlfriends because it’s important to be in their good books. He’s expecting to be with you long term so why not be friends with yours?

Jessie x

Photography by Wes Tan

How to nail your first date with a girl who is successful

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So you’ve finally convinced the super banging girl of your dreams to go on a date with you, maybe she’s not even the girl of your dreams yet but top 10 in your 60 matches on Tinder. So how do you nail that first date? Read on…

1. Have a list of restaurants/ cafes/ places to take her. If she says she’s not picky, it means she wants you to make the decision. There’s something sexy about a guy who can make decisions because this girl is probably making decisions all day in her own life and her job. It’s nice for someone to take the weight off once in a while.

2. Don’t be late - If you’re prone to being late to things then aim to be early. If you think it’ll come off as cool and nonchalant rocking up late, it’s not. This girl has taken time out of her busy schedule to meet you so don’t waste it, she’s organised and she’ll feel respected if you arrive early/ on time. First impressions count!

3. She’ll like it more if you book a table instead of just rocking up to a venue and hoping they have a spot & waiting around for 30 minutes. It shows you’re organised & thoughtful. Obviously coffee or lunch would be a different situation.

4. Don’t mention how much you’ve stalked her on social - you might think it’s cute and endearing and she’ll love the attention but it kind of just comes across as creepy. (Even though she’s probably done the same to you.)

5. Stay off your phone - There’s nothing more rude than someone texting or checking their phone while at dinner. Not even on a first date but any date, even friend dates.

6. Eye contact and lots of questions – I know how hard it must be not to let your eyes slip and go south of the lips “but she’s wearing that low cut top, obviously she wants me to look?!” No, she doesn’t. You look like a creep.

7. Pay – Maybe I’m old school but there’s something chivalrous about a guy who doesn’t expect you to pay for half the meal… unless of course the date sucked! Girls love guys who are generous.

8. Walk or drive her home - this shows you want to end the date on a good note, that you care if she gets home safely and you want to spend those extra few minutes with her.

9. Don’t ask to go back to her place – that’s also just creepy, unless she suggests it, then do not bring it up.

10. Kiss her – Don’t be a pussy. This is where the fireworks happen! Unless the date was a failure and there was no chemistry, then don’t kiss her, or unless you met up for coffee and its midday then yeah don’t kiss her in broad daylight – that will be awkward and there will be people around. No to PDA!

11. Text her by lunchtime the next day - if you text her that night you run the risk of looking too keen and desperate, keep her interested, but five days or even 24 hours is too long. She wants to know you really like her and that you’ve been thinking about her.

Good luck, guys and happy dating!

Jessie x

Photography by Laurie

How to be body confident at the beach

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If you’re not huge on the beach because as soon as your toes hit the sand and your kaftan has to come off you suddenly think 1000 pairs of eyes are on you, you suddenly feel a pang of insecurities, you think everyone is laughing at your flaws but the truth is they’re most likely not & probably just as concerned about theirs too.

I’m gonna give you practical tips on how to feel body confident at the beach!

1. Fake tan – Yes, all of these are going to sound superficial, but this is a superficial issue we all have in our heads. It’s proven that darker colours, eg when you wear black makes you look slimmer than when you wear white. So a nice, natural looking tan will make you instantly slimmer.

2. Find a bikini that suits your body type – Sometimes halter bikinis aren’t the most flattering when it comes to girls with wide shoulders, just the same as hipster bikini pants aren’t the best for girls with wide hips. It’s a matter of going into stores and trying on bikinis that flatter your shape & accentuate the good parts. And if you’re buying online make sure there’s a good return policy!

3. Work out – This one’s simple, how can you expect to have a Victoria’s secret model bod if you’re not going to put in the hours of training? I know exercising isn’t for everybody but it’s about finding the work out that you enjoy and can do regularly without hating it the whole time.

4. Get a sunscreen that won’t make you white - Invest in a sunscreen that not only is high SPF but actually absorbs into your skin and doesn’t turn you pastey white. I’ve tried out a lot and the Dermalogical Sunscreen is AMAZING as well as the Cancer Council Sunscreen.

5. Make healthy lifestyle choices – I never ‘diet’ and I never will. I’m a foodie and I enjoy all the food I eat, I add the sauce I want to make a meal tasty and eat all the pork cracking I want. But more often than not I am passing up on the fried chicken and opting for boiled or bbq. I only have my roast pork cracking if it’s on a bed of salad, I avoid pastries and replace it with dark chocolate or fruit. I LOVE potato chips and if I crave it to be honest I’ll get a packet, but I don’t have the whole thing in one sitting. It’s about portion control. So don’t stop yourself eating what you want to because it’ll drive you crazy & into a binge but instead eat what you like in moderation and swap of foods that will satisfy your high sugar cravings.

6. Don’t eat a huge meal the night before you go to the beach – I never have and never will skip a meal but I will often ask my friends “Can we eat healthy tonight?”. And if you have supportive friends they’ll agree and would probably be open to eating healthy themselves.

7. Own it – Being confident is 90% phycological (Ok I made up that statistic) but really, you just need to think positive about yourself. Smile, have good posture and wear big ass sunglasses so you can see everyone that’s staring at you – because chances are they’re looking because you’re a FOX!

Jessie x

Photography by Wes Tan

Thigh High

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One of my favourite ways to wear OTK (over the knee) boots is by layering them over skinny jeans. It’s chic and it keeps you damn warm. I’ve opted for camel OTKs over the standard black because it’s fun to mix up the wardrobe a bit and I already have two pairs of black OTK boots, heeled and flat – coincidentally both also from Tony Bianco because I can trust their quality! So dare to mix up the colours in your shoe wardrobe this year and move away from the black or black or black options we always go for. It’ll instantly up for fashion game, promise.

Jessie x

Photography by Laurie

Rainbow Eyes

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How do you wear sneakers without looking like you’re exercising or on your way to the gym? Easy. Ditch the gym tights and switch over to denim. It can be shorts, skinny leg, boyfriend jeans, a mini skirt or mom jeans. The trick is to have some sort of leg or ankle showing because as soon as the denim touches the sneakers you’re channelling Jerry Seinfeld fashion – and that’s OK if you’re into it… but… yeah nah.

This look is super casual & perfect for a very not too fast Bondi to Bronte coastal walk which is probably 1.5km long, or a walk from home to Messina gelato which is up the hill or it’s also good for walking the dog I wish I had.

Jessie x

Photography by Wes Tan

 

Woolen

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Neutral everything! Tans, beige, nude… I’m getting predictable. I’ll mix it up soon I swear, but these are just the best colours for the season right now. If you’re thinking these colours aren’t for you because of your skin tone then I recommend going for something a little darker like camel instead of fleshy toned nudes and blushes because there’s nothing worse than washing out your own complexion. Also, avoid high neck styles like turtle necks because that will just blend into your chin and unless you’re blessed by Jesus himself with a chiseled jaw line or you have the contour skills of Michelle Phan then you’re not doing yourself any favours.

Jessie x

Photography by Jocelyn Nguyen

Summer Solstice with Samantha Wills

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Nearing the end of Summer it’s been a weird one for us here down in Aus, we have coat weather days and bikini weather days one after the other. Luckily Sunglasses never go out of style and they bid well to summer and winter irrespectively. So Scott and I shot this series with Samantha Wills because we love her new range of sunglasses & wanted to showcase how easily they are to style Summer to Winter.

Jessie x

Photography by Scott Lowe

Flares and Camel

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Flares and Camel are two of the biggest trends for this season. Flares can be printed, denim, tailored or lace (like featured). The important part about finding the perfect flares is getting them hemmed to the right length. Being 5″3 I can guarantee you that flares never fit me when I’m trying them on in the change room so make sure you get them taken up when you find a pair you like. And when you’re getting them taken up make sure you’re wearing your favourite pair of heels or boots because that’s going to give you the exact idea of where the dressmaker can chop them.

Now let’s talk about this delicious maxi camel coat. I’d say this is definitely an investment piece for the winter. I’m a summer girl so when I feel the cold I feel the cold so I rug up at every single opportunity and layering is boss. I’ve put it together with a cropped, oversized knit and boyfriend style shirt for a casual office and/or off duty look. Depending on what your job is haha.

Jessie x

Photography by Laurie Young

Classics

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Calvin Klein classics mixed with new pieces like these black and white Saucony sneakers and new faux leather pants are how I’m mixing up my casual wardrobe this season. Day to day I’m very casual, I walk up a big hill to work and generally I am running too late to wear heels so I lace up my sneakers for a powerwalk instead. And if you’re interested in this little black collar you can read about how you can DIY your own here.

Jessie x

Photography by Laurie Young